Written By JadePhoenix With Input From MojoMom07
This blog might stir some ill-feelings in some. We do not mean it to offend anyone. I say we because I am getting help and experiences from my wife's point of view as well.
Families...some are good, some are bad, some are down-right horrific to deal with. I have an over-controlling father that has made my life miserable. My wife has a mother and a younger brother that are the spawn of evil. What can a person do to relieve them self of people like this? It is sad but true but we care about or even love our bad family members. Whether or not we can forgive them for things they have done to us remains to be seen. Probably will never happen. I have a father that was sexually abusive and became as such when I admitted my bisexuality. My father admitted he was gay after I came out. He used my sexuality to please his own sexual urges since no one wanted to date him. He is a control freak who would in exact words tell you he was better than ANYONE Else in the world. He would beat me even when he wasn't sexually assaulting me.
My wife has a mother that sexually abused her and a younger brother that joined in and did it as well. They both beat my wife for various things of a non sexual nature as well. After we married...in secret...we invited everyone but our bad family members. We did have contact with them at this time...we do not at the present time. Neither of us have any desire to ever communicate with them ever again. We lived in fear of them even as adults. Our Devils of the same blood-line as ourselves (we don't really consider them family anymore.) tried to control us even as adults. I even had my father live with us for a short while. After a series of events that are too long to type out...we decided we could not live like this anymore and permanently removed them from our lives with permanent restraining orders...yes these do exist.
Even though we still cared for these individuals we knew that our lives would be lived in fear and misery as long as they were apart of it. How were we able to overcome these fears? We still haven't...even now. However, we do know that we have to be strong and protect our family from these evils. If anyone reading this has a family member that they are too scared to get rid of...the best thing I can tell you is DO IT NOW BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!!!! It isn't easy and it is more frightening than anything. What is more important the safety and love of your family and yourself or the emotional detachment of removing the bad family members from your life? We all have to keep our self-worth and pride strong in order to survive in this world. Controlling or abusive parents or family destroys your self-worth and will make life unbearable in the long run.
Because of parents or siblings such as ours, there are more suicides in young adults and teenagers than ever before. Never be afraid to stand up for your personal safety or that of your loved ones. Just make the first step to insure your safety. I don't care how old you are...your life should never be lived in fear. Protect yourself now!